v. vent·ed, vent·ing, vents
1. To express (one’s thoughts or feelings, for example), especially forcefully.
2. To release or discharge (steam, for example) through an opening.
3. To provide with a vent.
1. To vent one’s feelings or opinions.
2. To be released or discharged through an opening.
3. To rise to the surface of water to breathe. Used of a marine mammal.

The other day someone IN REAL LIFE said to me: ‘Well, I don’t understand why anyone would have a journal online that anyone can read…but…’

It made me think about why I have this journal. It was originally to keep in touch with family and friends on the East Coast and beyond.

I used to write long “updates” like most folks do. I found that as my life got more active this past fall and I found a confidant, I did not need to do the updates as often. If there was something specific going on that certain people should know about, I emailed them. e.g. my health issues back in late Dec/early Jan. Some lj friends only found out that way.

For many months I didn’t even do a friends only post as I was not “needing” to vent any of the stuff in my life here. Kinda got all wrapped up in venting mostly to my closest confidant(again).

I started ONLY posting lyrics or political stuff. That must have bored people. But…it’s what I needed to post at that time. This being MY journal and all…

When some new folks and I found eachother at an “add me” group I felt blessed to have met so many really interesting and warm people. This multiplied the # of folks on my flist 3 fold.

This concerned me after awhile. WHY? Well, because of this…

Let’s say you go to a meeting where there are 4 people. You have met all of them before and know their agenda. It’s the same as your’s. To get teh business of the day done, hear everyone’s point, support or rifute and come to a solution. *just an example*

Let’s say the next day the 4 of you go to XYZ HUGE Corporation for a meeting with 75 of their top people. The chances of someone in the room being that one who will go postal really increases. *LOL* um…didn’t expect that?

Anyway, my WEAK point is that the more “friends” one collects on ANY online site, the higher the chance that you get someone toxic in that group. That’s why, up until a couple of months ago, I didn’t add many people at all.

It has been many years since I first joined any online group where words are exchnaged publicly. I think it was ’95? Maybe ’94. I’ve had a pretty good string of “luck” in that I have almost never been flamed by anyone. I don’t TEND to attract judgemental, vengeful or petty folks.

My streak of luck ended this week on here. But, that’s cool. Not a huge problem. Life goes on. I WILL vent about it if need be. That’s my right. Venting is to release the tension built up by an incident or your day, etc. Then…we move on.

There is a LOT going on in my life…internally and externally. I have a lot to focus on that I have written a bit about. As long as folks on my flist that can see filetered entries(including anonymous posters) respect my privacy and my need to be who I am in MY journal…I’m cool. If anyone reads my journal to look for things to hate, that’s a waste of their time.

I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to berate others for what they right about themselves in THIER journal. Opinion is great! But, when there is malice of intent behind the opinion…it’s flaming.

Judge me as you will…lj is not the center of my life. And, it’s not where I get my nurturing and support(in general…cuz some of y’all are amazing). It’s a bonus when people online can support eachother or make eachother smile.

So…back to WHY I keep this journal. I now keep this journal to remind myself of certain news items, keep in touch with some pretty amazing folks I’ve been priveledged to meet on here, and vent from time to time.

oh yah….I have a headache(dehydrated). Please don’t be offended by my spelling/typos.

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11 Comments on Venting: General Use of Journaling

  1. I agree with you…it’s your journal and you should write about anything that you want to without someone criticizing and complaining about you write, b/c it’s yours.

  2. arian_diana says:

    I give up. I honestly do. I wasn’t trying to cause more drama, just offer advice. And look what happened.
    Oddly enough, YOU had a lot of ADVICE to give to me when I was having trouble with Melissa, and I never belittled you about it.

    • B.E.M. says:

      huh? How have I belittled you? This was NOT about you. I don’t get it.

    • B.E.M. says:

      I am lost. I don’t understand how my writing about this to “wrap it up” in a diplomatic and calm way was aime at you? Or how it causes more drama.

      I appreciate your advice. Did I not say that to you a short while ago?

  3. neanahe says:

    Sorry about your encounter with the dramawhore (whoever it is/was). We all have these journals for different reasons. Whatever you want to post, it’s your bidness. Anyone who doesn’t like it can leave. Anyone you don’t like can be excluded. It’s all good. 🙂

  4. beloved_juno says:

    I agree… this is your journal to post in and keep for whatever purpose you please. Sometimes people tend to forget that we don’t keep these things to entertain them you know? Not most of us anyway.

  5. *up on a soap box*

    Yeah! *pointing fingers at anonlymous drama-mongers*

    *hugs to you*


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