My 2cents(I ain’t no expert but I have learned some things):

  • Assumptions are ALWAYS bad. Unless you are assuming your partner wants a hug or a loving touch…that can’t hurt can it?
  • Don’t bad mouth your partner to others. If you are having a conflict, talk to your partner and work it through.
  • If you are butting heads too often and not seeing “eye to eye”, learn the language your partner speaks and speak it to them. This does NOT mean change who you are, it means meet them where they are. If you are a skilled communicator this will happen naturally once you spend some time with another person for a while.
  • Love is selfless. If you find yourself waiting for someone to love you the way you want them to, STOP! Try loving them the way you would want to be loved.
  • Ask! Don’t Tell!
  • I know it is said above, but when you feel an appreciation for something your partner has said or done for you(or another), TELL THEM! It can warm a heart and warm hearts are much more cozy to cuddle with.
  • Trust yourself. Listen to your instincts. Don’t play games with your OWN head.
  • If you are not sure where to start, watch the interactions of people whose relationships you admire. If you can’t see what they are doing “right”, ask them how they “do” it.
  • I can not stress this one enough: Laugh together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • If there is a conflict that keeps repeating itself, before you expect your partner to change…look inward for change.
  • Money can RUIN love and friendship. Don’t borrow money from your partner early on in a relationship. Don’t enter into financial “agreements” until there is strong foundation of trust and honesty. Don’t use money to make your partner feel guilty.
  • Think before you speak/type/run out the door screaming.
  • And last but not least…be friends with your partner. Share their interests. Share your interests with them. Find NEW interests together. 

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